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Peace with Others Series
WHAT WE LEARN FROM THE LOG IN OUR EYE Matthew 7:3-5
As we continue in our Peace with Others Series, we explore perhaps the most missed and crucial teaching of Jesus and how to apply it. So much of real-life peace-making hinges on getting this right in our cultural-war, cancel-culture, scorched earth, politics-is-religion, North American context.
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Narrative Lectionary for Week of May 2
Key Texts: Matthew 7:1-5, Luke 6:36-42
Big Ideas: Getting the Log out of Your Eye is the key to judging correctly. And understanding our capacity for self-deception is huge!
—Sayings of the Desert Fathers, translated by Owen Chadwick, in Western Asceticism (Westminster 1983)
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you want them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.
—Thomas à Kempis
Review of the Four “G”s. In dealing with conflict well, there are Four “G”s we will explore...
→A Vicious Cycle ⥀
→Transforming Initiative to Breakthrough⟴
You cannot put straight in others what is warped in yourself.
—Athanasius of Alexandria, Patriarch of Alexandria and Church Father (c. 293-373)
James: 3:18 Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. Do you want a different harvest in your relationships? Healing? Not bitterness, envy, strife? A church alive? A marriage renewed? Friendships deepened and open, instead of shallow, judgmental and closed to others?
How can I show Jesus’ work in me by taking responsibility for my contribution to this conflict?
The Log Removal Process
I. Is it worth fighting over (review: overlook or engage)?
A. When to overlook:
A. Two types of faults that you must come to grips with regarding your role:
III. Getting to the heart of conflict
A. James 4:1-2
b) I Demand: I must have.. Demand or “needs”. Now I view the thing I desire as absolutely essential.
c) I'm Disappointed: Demand leads to disappointment “You didn’t X!” Most is not from what people actually did to us, but that they have failed to meet our expectations. Didn’t give us what we wanted.
d) I Judge: Judge, condemn, rejestr those who do not give us what we want.
e) I Punish: I am hurt and angry and strike back. Angry words, gossip, “cold shoulder”, etc.
C. Dealing with Heart Idols
D. Define Issues
Again magnify your sins.
IV. Attitude Check and Change Our attitudes that are overly sensitive or obsessing/dwelling on what others have done keeps us from active peacemaking OR overlooking.
B. Cultivate Gentleness
C. Anxiety - Mental and Spiritual space making
D. See things as they really are -Clarity about your “enemy”
E. Practice, practice, Practice! What you’ve learned
F. Count the Cost
G. What about Rights?
QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION AND DISCUSSION
(From Resolving Everyday Conflict Participant Guide)
Let's read His teaching again...
"Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye, when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye." (Matthew 7:3-5)